Lisbon in a Few Hours! (Part 1)

The Belém Tower


Mission impossible! Three times in a couple of hours is already feasible.

Many of you have been asking me to write a map of the visit to Lisbon for a long time, but many of you also resented my blogs being too long. Therefore, I came up with the idea to introduce this marvelous city to you in three parts. Depending on your available time, you can choose the parts you definitely do not want to miss, according to your own affinities.

Lisbon (Portuguese: Lisboa), the capital and the largest city of Portugal, is an energetic and amazing city, which has so much to offer to its visitors, of history, heritage, fascinating architecture, delicious food, wonderful cork products and a surprisingly vibrant nightlife.

  1. The Belém Tower
  2. The Monument to the Overseas Combatants
  3. The Tagus River
  4. The Belem Lighthouse
  5. The Monument of the Discoveries
  6. Empire Square
  7. The Jerónimos Monastery
  8. Pasteis de Belém
  9. The National Palace of Belém
  10. 25th of April Bridge
  11. The Sanctuary of Christ the King
  12. Time Out Market
The Belém Tower
The Belém Tower

My unquestionably most favorite part of Lisbon and its most iconic feature, is the Belém Tower (Portuguese: Torre de Belém), where we will start our tour.

The tower was commissioned by King John II to be part of a defense system at the mouth of the Tagus River and a ceremonial gateway to Lisbon. It was built in the early 16th century and is an outstanding example of the Portuguese Manueline style with hints of other architectural styles from the Gothic to the Romanesque.


It was built from Lioz limestone and it consists of a bastion and a four-storey tower. If you decide to enter, count on climbing 93 steps up to the top!

The Monument to the Overseas Combatants
The Monument to the Overseas Combatants

Right next to it there is the Monument to the Overseas Combatants, an attraction more recently added to Lisbon’s waterfront, commemorating all the people that lost their lives in the wars that Portugal was involved.

Its simple design and the cold geometry focus our attention to what the monument represents, and towards the center where the flame of the nation is placed. The lake symbolizes the distance and separation of the combatants from home and family, and there are no names of individuals or wars.

The Belem Lighthouse
The Belem Lighthouse

Two soldiers stand guard at the Monument all the time.


Following the River Tagus (Tejo), the longest river in the Iberian Peninsula (1,007 km), which empties into the Atlantic Ocean, forming a large estuary near the port city of Lisbon, in the direction of the city center, we will get to the Belem Lighthouse and to the Popular Art Museum (Museu de Arte Popular).



Just after them, there is the Monument of the Discoveries (Padrao dos Descobrimentos), a contemporary monument celebrating the Portuguese discoveries during the 15th and 16th centuries.

The Monument of the Discoveries
The Monument of the Discoveries

The view from the top is awesome, and you can also admire the breathtaking, large compass rose made of different color stone, laid into the square in front of the monument.

The area surrounding it is always full of tourists and locals, usually there is a band playing, and the atmosphere is simply fantastic.

Empire Square
Empire Square

We will leave the Tagus now, and cross Av. Brasilia to get to The Praça do Império (Empire Square), a city square and park situated adjacent to principal monuments and tourist attractions of Lisbon. The park is situated to the south of the Monastery of Santa Maria de Belém and west of the Centro Cultural de Belém.

It has the central illuminated fountain on a square platform, covering an area of 3,300 square meters (36,000 sq. ft.), and the sculptures of the seahorses on the extreme edges of the southern part of the square.

The Jerónimos Monastery
The Jerónimos Monastery

The Jerónimos Monastery (Mosteiro dos Jerónimos), is a former monastery of the Order of Saint Jerome, and one of the most prominent examples of the Portuguese Late Gothic Manueline style of architecture in Lisbon.  In 1983 it was classified a UNESCO World Heritage Site, along with the nearby Tower of Belém.

The Jerónimos Monastery replaced the church formerly existing in the same place, which was dedicated to Santa Maria de Belém and where the monks assisted the sailors in transit.

Santa Maria de Belém
Santa Maria de Belém

It is impressive inside, with some lovely stained glass windows and the Tomb of Vasco da Gama, who spent the night in prayer there with his men before departing on their expedition to the Orient in 1497.  It is well worth a visit.

At the very beginning of Belém Street, you will find an old pastry shop, where you can taste their famous Pasteis de Belém (called Pasteis de Nata when not made in Belém itself).  Be prepared to join a long queue, but the service is great and it moves very quickly.

These delicious Portuguese custard tarts come warm and they are some of the best in Lisbon.

The shop’s interior is beautiful and it is worth visiting for a few minutes. You can have a look into the bakery through the glass panes. The building is very old and there are some fabulous hand-painted tiles on the walls.

Following the street towards the city center, you will see Afonso de Albuquerque Garden on your right and the Palace of Belém on your left side, with the Tropical Botanical Garden behind.

The Belém Palace, or the National Palace of Belém, (Palácio Nacional de Belém) has been the official residence of Portuguese monarchs and later, the Presidents of the Portuguese Republic. The five buildings that make up the main façade date back to the second half of the 17th century.

25th of April Bridge
25th of April Bridge

To finish the first part of our visit to Lisbon, we can either take the train over (actually under) the 25 de Abril Bridge to visit the statue of Jesus Christ, which takes 4-5 minutes, or we can proceed towards the center and go to the Time Out Market. On the other hand, we can do both! 🙂

25th of April Bridge is a suspension bridge connecting the city of Lisbon to the left (south) bank of the Tagus. It was inaugurated in 1966, and a train platform was added in 1999. It is often compared to the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, US, because they are both suspension bridges of similar color. It is a wonderful construction of 2,277 meters (7,470 ft.), whose upper deck carries six car lanes, and the lower deck carries a double track railway.

The Sanctuary of Christ the King (Santuário de Cristo Rei) is a giant statue in cement, erected to express gratitude because the Portuguese were spared the effects of World War II. It is dedicated to the Sacred Heart of Jesus Christ overlooking the city of Lisbon.

Time Out Market
Time Out Market

Time Out Market in Lisbon is a brilliant place for any food lover, although it can take you ages to decide what you want to eat because there is so much to choose from! There is something for every palate, such a diversity of restaurants where the food is very well prepared and prices are moderate, along with littles stores where shopping is very pleasant. It is a place full of high-spirited energy from all around the world.

To be continued …

Things to Avoid If You Want to Become Wealthy

Things to Avoid If You Want to Become Wealthy


If you have finally decided to take your life in your own hands and get the maximum of it, you will probably have to get rid of some old habits. Here are some of the most common ones that very often represent an obstacle on your way to success and a richer life in every sense.

Get rid of your limited beliefs.

Depending on the environment where we grew up and on our childhood, we all bear the burden of various preconceptions taken from our parents, at school, from our friends or enemies. It is time to realize that they exist only in our heads and that they have lived there for far too long as parasites. The ideas like, “You cannot have a beautiful, smart and good-hearted woman at the same time”, or “You cannot be that lucky” or simply “You are not smart enough or capable of it”, leave to those ones who imagined them.

Stop dwelling on the past.

You cannot change it. Do not be too harsh about your mistakes, because they made you the person you are today, interested in getting the maximum of your life. All the things that hurt or disappointed you in the past, the mistakes or embarrassments are obstacles that could hinder you from progressing and developing.

Stop resisting changes.

They are natural and necessary. Our brains will desperately try to maintain the existing, although maybe completely terrible situation, recognizing it as a safe zone where survival is possible, which is always better than any uncertainty and change. Be aware of it!


Stop resisting changes

Exclude negative self-talk.

Never insult anyone, especially not yourself. My motto is, “If you have nothing nice to say, you should say nothing at all”. If you think of yourself badly, if you keep saying to yourself how stupid, incapable, fat, ugly or weak you are, how do you expect others to treat you differently!

Stop blaming others.

No one is guilty of our failures. The others are responsible for their own actions, and we can only react to them adequately. No one can eat or walk; neither breathe, nor feel, instead of us.

Stop complaining.

It provokes either compassion or a mockery. You do not need any of them. Estimate the situation and do your best in such circumstances on your own, without waiting for anyone else to save you.

There is no need to impress other people or to ask for their approval.

Do not strive for somebody else’s goals and dreams, and you will not need their approval and support. Nobody knows you better than you do. The achievement of your own goals is so fulfilling, that will make the others’ opinion completely irrelevant.

You do not need to be always right.

You cannot always succeed. Mistakes are necessary and inevitable. They are our best teachers. However, it is important to try and to be persistent.

There is absolutely no room for laziness or for the lack of motivation.

With no action, there is no reaction, and no positive results. Persistence and consistency are the key to any success.

Stop resisting changes

Stay away from negative people.

In every segment of your life, stay away from spiritless, unexcited and ungrateful people. Criticism without a constructive suggestion in return, should be left to politicians. Well-intentioned advice from less brave people should be left to their limitations. If there is a burning desire in you to achieve something, then you will certainly do it. You should not let yourself be limited by the people who do not want to see you grow and change, usually for their own, very selfish reasons.

Wealth without health means nothing.

Make an exceptional health be the number one priority in your life.

Finally, I will just repeat the famous advice of Robin Sharma. “Do not live the same year 75 times and call it life.”

Leave me your comments below, or via “contact” section. I will be thrilled if I manage to encourage any of you to take the path of change and self-improvement.

Budapest in a Few Hours


I visited Budapest for the first time four years ago. The funny thing is that it is the capital of Hungary, one of my neighboring countries. I guess some other, far away cities, seemed more attractive beforehand. The truth is that Budapest left me breathless. Bathed in sunshine, it glittered like the most magnificent gem that was in front of my nose all the time. One building after another, one more interesting and splendid than the other, a sight after a sight, made Budapest one of my favorite cities in the world.

The task to make an itinerary to visit it in a few hours and see as much as possible is far from an easy one. It is in front of you now, and it will depend on your available time, how much you will enjoy this magnificent city.

  1. The Castle Hill
  2. The Fountain of King Matthias
  3. The Holy Trinity Column
  4. Matthias Church
  5. The Fisherman’s Bastion
  6. St. Francis’s Wounds Church
  7. The Széchenyi Chain Bridge
  8. The Gresham Palace
  9. Hungarian Academy of Sciences
  10. Shoes on the Danube Bank
  11. The Parliament of Budapest
  12. The Ethnographic Museum
  13. The Hungarian Ministry of Agriculture
  14. St. Stephen’s Basilica
  15. The Hungarian State Opera House
  16. New York Palace Café
  17. The Great / Central Synagogue
  18. The Hungarian National Museum
  19. The Great Market Hall
  20. Liberty Bridge
  21. The Citadella
  22. The Statue of Liberty
  23. Heroes’ Square
The Castle Hill
The Castle Hill

The most convenient start for our tour is the Castle Hill, one of the top places to see in Budapest. The Buda Castle is the historical castle and palace complex of the Hungarian kings, built in 1265, but the massive Baroque palace that occupies most of the site today was added between 1749 and 1769.  The castle now houses the Hungarian National Gallery and the Budapest History Museum.  It is an incredible building to walk around and it offers unforgettable views of the city and of the Danube, day and night.

The Fountain of King Matthias
The Fountain of King Matthias


Make sure not to miss the impressive Fountain of King Matthias, on the opposite side of the building, inaugurated in 1904 and showing a hunting party lead by King Matthias. It sits in a very large decorated niche created by four huge Roman columns, topped with an arch.



The Holy Trinity Column
The Holy Trinity Column



Walking towards Matthias Church, we will first encounter the Holy Trinity Column in front of it, a beautiful Baroque 15m tall column made to protect the city against the plague. Residents believe the Holy Trinity Statue did its job, because the plague did not return after 1709 when it was built.


Matthias Church
Matthias Church

Matthias Church is one of the top attractions in Budapest and one of the top romantic places to see there. It is a Roman Catholic Church at the heart of Buda’s Castle District, originally built in Romanesque style in 1015, but with no archaeological remains of it. Its official name is the Church of Our Lady. Each era, ruler and castle siege has left its mark on the building. What we have today was mostly formed in the 1900s when the square was redesigned, Matthias Church got back its Gothic details, and the Fisherman’s Bastion was constructed with the Statue of St Stephen facing the church.

The Statue of St Stephen
The Statue of St Stephen

Although less historical, and more like a castle from Disney’s fantasy, but built from 1895 to 1902, so undoubtedly older, The Fisherman’s Bastion is one of my favorite attractions of Budapest. It is a terrace built in neo-Gothic and neo-Romanesque style, situated on the Buda bank of the Danube, with seven towers representing the seven Magyar tribes, which settled in the Carpathian Basin in 895. It has many stairs and walking paths and offers an amazing view of Danube, Margaret Island, and Pest to the east.

The Fisherman’s Bastion
The Fisherman’s Bastion
St. Francis's Wounds Church
St. Francis’s Wounds Church



Walking down those stairs towards the Danube, we will come across St. Francis’s Wounds Church, founded by the Franciscan order in the early 17th century, but completed much later, around 1757. Most of the interior furnishings and decoration were the work of the monks themselves, created in the monastery’s workshop.



The Széchenyi Chain Bridge
The Széchenyi Chain Bridge

The Széchenyi Chain Bridge (Hungarian: Széchenyi lánchíd) is a suspension bridge that spans the River Danube between Buda and Pest, the western and eastern sides of Budapest. It was designed by the English engineer William Tierney Clark, and built by the Scottish engineer Adam Clark. It was opened in 1849 and at the time of its construction, it was considered one of the modern world’s engineering wonders. It was the first permanent bridge across the Danube in Hungary.

The Széchenyi Chain Bridge
The Széchenyi Chain Bridge

Though it carries the name of István Széchenyi, a major supporter of its construction, it is most commonly known as the “Chain Bridge”. Its decorations made of cast iron, and its construction, radiating calm dignity and balance, made it highly ranked among the bridges in Europe.

The Gresham Palace
The Gresham Palace

The bridge will lead us straight to the Gresham Palace (Gresham-palota), a beautiful example of Art Nouveau architecture. It was built in 1906, and today it is a luxury hotel managed by Four Seasons Hotels. Originally, the palace served as an office building, then it was used by the Red Army during the World War II,  and eventually,  as an apartment building during the People’s Republic of Hungary. After the end of the communist regime, the building was extensively rebuilt as a luxury hotel, when most of its original details as a large staircase, stained glass, mosaics, ironwork, and winter gardens were restored.

Hungarian Academy of Sciences
Hungarian Academy of Sciences
Shoes on the Danube Bank
Shoes on the Danube Bank

Following the Danube upstream, we will be able to admire the beautiful façade of Hungarian Academy of Sciences, built around 1865 in the Renaissance Revival style, and soon we will come across the Shoes on the Danube Bank, an incredible memorial, which achieves such a powerful impact, in such a subtle way. It is a stunning representation of the horrific events, a memorial for those Jews who were taken down to the Danube and shot, but first they had to leave their shoes to their executioners. If you look into the shoes, you will see grass and flowers growing as a proof that life is indestructible.

The Parliament of Budapest
The Parliament of Budapest

The Parliament of Budapest (Hungarian: Országház), is the seat of the National Assembly of Hungary, and the most notable landmark of Budapest. It is currently the largest building in Hungary and still one of the two tallest buildings in Budapest. It lies on the bank of the Danube.

The construction started in 1885, after an international competition, won by Imre Steindl. (The plans of two other competitors were later also realized in the form of the Ethnographic Museum and the Hungarian Ministry of Agriculture, both facing the Parliament Building). The building was inaugurated on the 1000th anniversary of the country in 1896. It was completed in 1904, but the architect of the building went blind before its completion.

The Ethnographic Museum
The Ethnographic Museum

About 100 000 people were involved in its construction. The Parliament Building is made in the Gothic Revival style; it has a symmetrical façade and a central dome built in the Renaissance style.

Also from inside the parliament is symmetrical and thus has two identical parliament halls, of which one is used by politicians, the other for guided tours.

The main façade overlooks the Danube, but the official main entrance is from the square on the east side of the building.

St. Stephen's Basilica
St. Stephen’s Basilica

We will then pass Liberty Square in order to get to St. Stephen’s Basilica (Hungarian: Szent István-bazilika), a Roman Catholic basilica, named in honor of Stephen, the first King of Hungary (975–1038), whose “incorruptible” right hand is housed in the reliquary.

The site of today’s basilica used to be a theater in the 18th century, where animal fights were hosted. Today, it is the most important church in Hungary, and with the Hungarian Parliament Building, it is one of the two tallest buildings in Budapest with their 96 meters (315 ft.). This equation symbolizes that secular and spiritual thinking have the same importance. Current regulations prohibit the construction of any building taller than this in Budapest.

The architectural style is Neo-Classical. It was completed in 1905 after 54 years of construction. Such delay can be attributed to the collapse of the dome in 1868, which required complete demolition of the completed works and rebuilding from the ground up.

The elevators, or 364 stairs, take up to the viewing area on the terrace of the Basilica, offering an amazing view of Buda and Pest.

The Hungarian State Opera House
The Hungarian State Opera House

Andràssy út will take us to another amazing building of Budapest, the Hungarian State Opera House (Hungarian: Magyar Állami Operaház). It is a neo-Renaissance building located in central Budapest, designed by Miklós Ybl, a major figure of 19th-century Hungarian architecture. Its construction began in 1875, and the new house opened to the public in 1884. It is truly magnificent and well worth visiting.

New York Palace Café
New York Palace Café

Following Andràssy út, we will turn right to Erzsébet krt, which will take us to New York Palace Café (Hungarian: New York Kávéház), a place that is a must in Budapest for afternoon tea. The New York Palace is a luxury hotel on the Grand Boulevard of Budapest’s Erzsébet körút part, constructed in 1894 by the New York Life Insurance Company as a local head office. The famous ground floor has been a long time center for Hungarian literature and poetry.

Its stunning interior and a quartet playing on the elevated stage at the back of the room, create a fabulous atmosphere that I cannot recommend enough.

The Hungarian National Museum
The Hungarian National Museum

We will turn right and take Rákóczi út and walking towards the Danube, it will lead us to the Great / Central Synagogue (Nagy Zsinagoga) on the right and to the Hungarian National Museum founded in 1802, on the left.

The Dohány Street Synagogue is the largest synagogue in Europe, seating 3,000 people. It was built between 1854 and 1859 in the Moorish Revival style.

Liberty Bridge
Liberty Bridge

Following Múzeum krt, we will walk pass the Great Market Hall and get to Liberty Bridge (Szabadsag hid), which connects Buda and Pest across the Danube at the southern end of the City Centre. It is the shortest bridge in Budapest’s center. Built as a part of the Millennium World Exhibition at the end of the 19th century, it features art nouveau design, mythological sculptures and the country’s coat of arms. It was the first to be rebuilt after suffering heavy damage during World War II.

The Statue of Liberty
The Statue of Liberty

We will end our tour on the opposite side, at the Citadella fortification located upon the top of Gellért Hill, the place of the huge strategic importance in Budapest’s military history. Climbing up the hill is a good fun if you like a bit of exercise after eating delicious Hungarian food, or you can simply use the elevator. A walk around the walls leads to the area with a number of statues including the famous Hungarian Statue of Liberty, built to celebrate Budapest’s liberation from the Nazis. At night, Budapest is fantastically illuminated so it is a great spot for exquisite photos.

Naturally, Budapest has so much more to offer, so I highly recommend a longer stay.

Heroes' Square
Heroes’ Square

Among the sites that should not be missed, but not that close to the city center, is definitely Heroes’ Square (Hungarian: Hősök tere), one of the major squares in Budapest. It is famous for its iconic statue complex featuring important Hungarian national leaders, and for the Memorial Stone of Heroes, erected in 1929 as a tribute to those who died for defending Hungary’s 1000 years old borders.

Two important buildings, the Museum of Fine Arts on the left, and the Palace of Art (or the Hall of Art) on the right, surround the square. On the other side, it faces Andrássy Avenue, which has two buildings looking at the square – one is residential and the other is the embassy of Serbia.

I sincerely hope that you will find my itinerary useful and that it will save you from wandering. If so, I would really appreciate to hear your comments.

The Museum of Fine Arts
The Museum of Fine Arts

Innsbruck in a Few Hours



Innsbruck is the capital city of Tyrol in western Austria located in the wide Inn Valley, between high mountains, at the intersection of two important traffic routes between Germany and Italy and between Switzerland and Vienna. It is a well-known winter sports center, which hosted the Winter Olympic Games in 1964 and 1976 and the Winter Paralympics in 1984 and 1988. Its name means “Inn Bridge

  1. The Golden Roof
  2. The City Tower
  3. The Helbling House
  4. The Cathedral of St. James
  5. The Imperial Palace
  6. The Jesuit Church
  7. Maria Theresien Strasse
  8. The Hospital Church of the Holy Spirit
  9. St. Anne’s Column
  10. The Servite Church
  11. The Triumphal Arch
  12. The Swarovski Crystal World
The Golden Roof
The Golden Roof

The best way to start our tour around Innsbruck, (if we have limited time or if we simply don’t want to miss some important sites), is from the very heart of The Old Town, and from one of its main attractions, The Golden Roof (Goldenes Dachl).

The roof was completed in 1500, and it was decorated with 2,657 fire-gilded copper tiles for Emperor Maximilian I to celebrate his wedding to Bianca Maria Sforza. They used the balcony to watch festivals, tournaments, and other events that took place in the square below.

Around Christmas, this square becomes a huge market with lots of stalls selling gifts, food and drink.

The City Tower
The City Tower


The best view of it is doubtlessly from The City Tower, built 50 years earlier, in 1450 on the side of the old town hall with 133 steps and the 31-metre-high viewing platform. Guards kept watch from it for almost 450 years, warning citizens of fire and other dangers. The lower floors were used as a prison. Today the tower is there for visitors to enjoy, giving them a magnificent and romantic view of Innsbruck.

The Helbling House, named after one of its previous owners, is a building that is simply impossible to miss in this square. It was built in the fifteenth century, significantly changed with new architectural styles afterwards, and completed in 1732. The Rococo stucco decorations added in the early eighteenth century, designed to capture light, made this building unique.

The Helbling House
The Helbling House

Taking Pfarrgasse Street, we will get to The Cathedral of St. James (Dom St. Jacob), Innsbruck Cathedral (Innsbruck Dom), a beautiful cathedral with imposing twin-towered west front and the high dome, built in Baroque style in 1724 and fully restored after World War II.

The Cathedral of St. James
The Cathedral of St. James

The Imperial Palace (Hofburg) is a former Habsburg palace, constructed around 1460, and, along with the Hofburg Palace and Schönbrunn Palace in Vienna, considered one of the three most significant cultural buildings in the country. It was the main building of a large residential complex including the Silver Chapel, the Hofkirche, the Theological University, the Tyrolean Folk Art Museum, Innsbruck Cathedral, the Congress, the Hofgarten…

The Imperial Palace
The Imperial Palace

It was remodeled in Baroque and Rococo style in the 18th century upon instructions from Empress Maria Theresa. The Giant Hall in polished marble and decorated in white and gold, with three large ceiling frescos from 1775, and beautiful portraits of the Imperial family, is particularly impressive. Maria Theresa’s Rooms, Empress Elisabeth’s Apartment, the Ancestral Gallery, the Furniture Museum, and the Painting Gallery, are also worth seeing.

The Jesuit Church
The Jesuit Church


The area around the Hofburg offers several other attractions worth seeing. The Silver Chapel built in 1587 as the burial chapel named after a silver image of the Virgin, the Old University founded in 1562, The Jesuit Church (Jesuitenkirche), with its mighty 60-meter-tall dome built in 1640, the Tyrolean Provincial Theater (Tiroler Landestheater Innsbruck), built in 1846, and the Hofgarten, with its Art and Concert Pavilion.

Burggrabben Street will take us straight to Maria Theresien Strasse, the main street of Innsbruck transformed into an elegant promenade and pedestrian zone in 2009, which is the ideal place to take a stroll, do some shopping, meet friends and sit at one of the many outdoor cafés, admiring the magnificent Baroque architecture and the city panorama.

The Hospital Church of the Holy Spirit
The Hospital Church of the Holy Spirit

At the head of this street, we will find The Roman Catholic Hospital Church of the Holy Spirit. The hospital that gave its name to the church no longer exists, and the church has changed its appearance a lot over the years, since the 12th century, when it was first mentioned.

St. Anne's Column
St. Anne’s Column

St. Anne’s Column (Annasäule), a beautiful monument commemorating the event when the last Bavarian troops were driven from the Tyrol on St. Anne’s Day (26 July) in 1703, stands in the center of the street. A bit further, there is The Servite Church (Servitenkirche) scenic, old and typical Austrian church built in the early 1600s and got its current appearance in the late-baroque period, perfect for a lovely picture to capture with the mountains in the background, if the sky is blue.


The Servite Church
The Servite Church

The street, and our tour, ends with The Triumphal Arch (Triumphpforte), built in 1765 on the occasion of the wedding of the second son of Empress Maria Theresa, Archduke Leopold, to the Spanish princess, Maria Luisa. Because of the sudden death of Leopold’s father, Francis Stephen of Lorraine, its south side portrays motifs of the wedding of the young couple, and its north side commemorates the death of the emperor.

The Triumphal Arch
The Triumphal Arch

If you still have some time, do pay a visit to The Swarovski Crystal World (Swarovski Kristallwelten) in Wattens, just 20 minutes outside Innsbruck, a magical place that fills senses with wonder and delight. For those who love the brand, or simply love sparkling crystals, this attraction is a real fairy tale world of shimmering crystals for both adults and children.

The Swarovski Crystal World
The Swarovski Crystal World

I hope that you will find my itinerary useful and that it will make your visit even more amusing and pleasant.

Be Happy

This time I wanted to share with you a story that I personally find very inspiring. I know that many of you will ask me afterwards, “Isn’t it sending a totally opposite message of what you have been telling us all the time?” It is not, and it is very important for you to understand that.

You will always hear me saying that we should step out from our comfort zone, and use smartly each second of our lives, that we should be committed to our goals and follow our dreams in spite of everything.

However, it is essential for all of us to stay happy on that path of growth and live with joy every second of our new journey. It is extremely important to have our goals very clear in our heads, made of, fewer material things and more of emotions that we want to face and feel, and to free ourselves from the burden of fear called “What if it goes wrong”, being positively orientated and thus attracting only positive things, which I explained in my previous posts…


The Story of Mexican Fisherman

by Timothy Forriss

An American businessman took a vacation to a small coastal Mexican village on doctor’s orders. Unable to sleep after an urgent phone call from the office the first morning, he walked out to the pier to clear his head. A small boat with just one fisherman had docked, and inside the boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish.

“How long did it take you to catch them?” the American asked. 

“Only a little while,” the Mexican replied in surprisingly good English. 

“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?” the American then asked. 

“I have enough to support my family and give a few to friends,” the Mexican said as he unloaded them into a basket.

“But… What do you do with the rest of your time?” 

The Mexican looked up and smiled. “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Julia, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, señor.”

The Story of Mexican FishermanThe American laughed and stood tall. “Sir, I’m a Harvard MBA and can help you. You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. In no time, you could buy several boats with the increased haul. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats.”

He continued, “Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the consumers, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village, of course, and move to Mexico City, then to Los Angeles, and eventually to New York City, where you could run your expanded enterprise with proper management.” 

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, señor, how long will all this take?” 

To which the American replied, “15-20 years, 25 tops.”

“But what then, senor?” 

The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO, sell your company stock to the public, and become very rich. You would make millions.”

“Millions senor? Then what?”

“Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fishing village, where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll in to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”


The Story of Mexican FishermanNice story, isn’t it? However, I wanted to show it to you from another angle.

I was that “fisherman” for so long. I had chosen wisely that kind of life that needed zero effort to give me the maximum pleasure. So what went wrong?

It was not MY dream. I am NOT a fisherman. If you have wings, you should use them to fly, not to hang them on the wall.

If you have talents, they are not there for some strange reason. You have to find that reason and follow your star. Otherwise, you will live somebody else’s dream, not yours. It is absolutely fine, if your dream is to spend time with your friends and family drinking and dancing in a small village hidden from the world. However, if deep inside, you know that you are meant to be somewhere else, go for it. Follow your own dreams, and dream as big as you can.

I got to the point where, continuing living the idealistic life of mine meant starting dying slowly. I had neglected all my talents for so long, but they finally imposed, and stood for their rights.

Be happy and grateful for everything you already have, but at the same time find the courage to choose the unknown and steep path called progress, and to take the responsibility for your own lives.

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Athens in a Few Hours

The Parthenon

Athens! What a city! Its long, fascinating history, starts from the first settlement in the Neolithic age, has its culmination in the 5th Century BC in the “Golden Age of Pericles”, suffers occupation of a multitude  of conquerors over the years, and in 1834, it becomes the capital of the modern Greek state.

A large part of the town’s historic center has been converted into 3 km long pedestrian zone, which makes it the longest in Europe.

It was also one of my smartest travelling choices, since I decided to visit it for the first time on January 2. While my country was frozen and covered with snow, Athens offered me the nicest spring weather that I could only imagine.

Athens - Bitter Orange Trees
Athens – Bitter Orange Trees

Its bitter orange trees (Νεραντζάκι) left an immediate impression on me, since the whole city seemed painted in orange and green. They are mostly used for decoration, as their fruit is too bitter to be eaten raw, or for the making of marmalades and sweets, in alcoholic beverages and in aromatology.

I would highly recommend a longer stay in this beautiful city, but trying to stick to the original idea, I will give you the itinerary of the most beautiful and the most famous sites that you really should not miss.

  1. The National Library of Greece
  2. The Academy of Athens
  3. The National and Kapodistrian University of Athens
  4. Syntagma Square
  5. The Greek Parliament
  6. The National Garden
  7. The Zappeion Mansion
  8. The Panathenaikon Stadium
  9. The Temple of Olympian Zeus
  10. The Arch of Hadrian
  11. The Acropolis
  12. The Acropolis Museum
  13. The ancient Theatre of Dionysos
  14. The Odeion of Herodes Atticus
  15. The Parthenon
  16. The Erechtheion
  17. The Areios Pagos
  18. The Temple of Hephaestus
  19. Plaka
  20. Monastiraki
The National Library of Greece
The National Library of Greece

The best point to start our tour in order to save time and steps is the National Library of Greece (Ethnikí Vivliothíki tis Elládos).

The building is situated near the city center and was designed as a part of the famous Trilogy of neo-classical buildings by a Dutch architect Hansen, also including the Academy of Athens and the original building of the Athens University.

The present building has been inconvenient due to limited space and technology demands and although it will continue to house some of its current functions, the bulk of the library has already been relocated to a new building.

The Academy of Athens
The Academy of Athens

The Academy of Athens is one of its major landmarks, with the figures of Athena and Apollo with lyre on the side pillars, and the seated marble figures of Plato and Socrates.

The National and Kapodistrian University of Athens
The National and Kapodistrian University of Athens

The National and Kapodistrian University of Athens usually referred to simply as the University of Athens, is a public university continuously operational since its establishment in 1837 and the oldest higher education institution of the Modern Greek state, with over 100,000 students.

The Greek Parliament
The Greek Parliament

We will soon get to Syntagma Square, one of the main squares of the town, with the Greek Parliament building dominating it.  There is the Monument of the Unknown Soldier in front of it, guarded by the Evzones in their traditional costume. The Change of the Guards takes place every hour right in front of the building and it is quite impressive.

The National Garden
The National Garden

From this square starts the beautiful National Garden (covering around 40 acres and full of the palm trees, the acanthus plants, and noisy birds), south of which stands the impressive Zappeion Mansion.

The Zappeion Mansion
The Zappeion Mansion

It was erected for the revival of the Olympic Games in the modern world, and now is generally used as Congress and exhibition hall, for meetings and ceremonies, both official and private.

The Panathenaikon Stadium
The Panathenaikon Stadium

From there we will continue towards the Panathenaikon Stadium (Kallimarmaro), the only stadium in the world built entirely of marble, where the first Olympic Games in modern history were held (1896).

It was firstly built for the Panathenaic Games in 330 BC, then rebuilt in marble by Herodes Atticus, an Athenian Roman senator, in 144 AD with a capacity of 50,000 seats, and finally excavated and refurbished in 1869.

The Temple of Olympian Zeus
The Temple of Olympian Zeus

We will continue to the Temple of Olympian Zeus (Naós tou Olympíou Diós), also known as the Olympieion, which used to be the largest temple in Greece during the Roman period, with 104 colossal columns and one of the largest cult statues in the ancient world. Its construction began in the 6th century BC, but it was completed only in the 2nd century AD.

The Arch of Hadrian
The Arch of Hadrian

The Arch of Hadrian (Apsida tou Adrianou), or simply Hadrian’s Gate (Pyli tou Adrianou), is a monumental gateway built to celebrate the arrival of the Roman Emperor Hadrian and to honor him for his benefactions to the city, in 131 or 132 AD. It offers a great view of the Acropolis and the Temple of Olympian Zeus.

Walking along Dionysou Areopaghitou Street (on the south side of the Acropolis) we will first see the impressive Acropolis Museum on the left, one of the most important contemporary works of architecture in Athens. Made of steel, glass and concrete, it houses 4,000 exquisite finds from the Acropolis monuments.

The ancient Theatre of Dionysos
The ancient Theatre of Dionysos

On the right, we will first encounter the ancient Theatre of Dionysos from the fifth c. B.C, the first theater ever built and the place where most of the works by Sophocles, Euripides and Aristophanes were performed.

The Odeion of Herodes Atticus
The Odeion of Herodes Atticus

Continuing, we will reach the Odeion of Herodes Atticus, which was built in 161 A.D. and is nowadays the venue of the performances of the Athens Festival and a fantastic place to enjoy Operas due to its excellent acoustic.

From there we will climb up to the Acropolis, the site of some of the most important masterpieces of worldwide art and architecture. The most famous ones are certainly the Parthenon temple , the temple of the Athene Nike, the Erechtheion, and the Propylaea, that we will actually walk through as we arrive at the top to the Acropolis and again as we leave it. When it was built, the Propylaea was a magnificent entry point to the temples on the top of the Acropolis.

We owe this place to Pericles (495 – 429 BC) who coordinated the construction of the site’s most important building in the fifth century BC. Much later, they were seriously damaged during the 1687 siege by the Venetians during the Morean War when a cannonball hit gunpowder stored in the Parthenon.

The Parthenon
The Parthenon

The Parthenon (Parthenónas) is an enduring symbol of Ancient Greece, Athenian democracy and Western civilization. It is a temple dedicated to the goddess Athena, the patron of the citizens of Athens. Its construction began in 447 BC when the Athenian Empire was at the peak of its power and it was completed in 438 BC. Its sculptures are considered some of the high points of Greek art.

The Parthenon replaced an older temple of Athena that was destroyed in the Persian invasion of 480 BC.

The Erechtheion
The Erechtheion

The Erechtheion is probably the most elegant part of the Acropolis.

The building had two porches. The roof of the north porch was supported on six Ionic columns. At the south porch, which was the most well-known, the roof was supported by six statues of maidens known as the Caryatids, instead of the typical columns. One of the sculptures from the western section was removed by Lord Elgin in 1801 and is today located in the British Museum.

A visit to the Museum, located close to the Parthenon is also highly recommendable, and the view of the city from the rock is absolutely impressive.

The Acropolis
The Acropolis

Coming down from the Acropolis we will arrive at the Areios Pagos, a prominent rock, located northwest of the Acropolis and the most ancient law court of the world. Philopappou Hill stands opposite it with its beautiful cobbled roads and with the Roman monument on its top, and the Pnyx, where the citizens of ancient Athens used to gather to discuss their democratic rights.

Following the pedestrian road, we will get to the Ancient Agora, the ancient Athens’ commercial, political and religious center and to the well preserved Temple of Hephaestus.

The area that developed around the Ancient Agora of Athens is called Plaka and it is considered the oldest district in Athens, as it has been continuously inhabited since antiquity. It is the heart of the historic center and one the most picturesque neighborhoods of Athens with its narrow streets, lovely neoclassical buildings, small cafes, traditional taverns, souvenir shops and ancient ruins in almost every corner.

It is very commercial and popular with tourists, because there are plenty of things to do and see there.


Continuing from Plaka we arrive at Monastiraki, our final destination, a characteristic area with narrow streets, and the city’s traditional bazaar full of very attractive shops, local food, restaurants and coffee shops. It is a nice place to walk around and it has an amazing view to the Acropolis.

Turning to what I said in the beginning, I would highly recommend a longer stay in Athens, because these 20 sites are only the most important ones, that you would really regret not seeing.

I sincerely hope that you will find my itinerary helpful. If so, I will be happy to read your comment below. If you have a suggestion for the next one, you can send me an email in the “contact” section.

Memory Card Technique for Learning Foreign Languages

memory card technique for learning foreign languages

This time I will show you how to use my memory card technique for learning foreign languages. I started using it while I was still at the University. We were supposed to memorize huge sentences in Latin and ancient Italian language, and as long as they were written on paper in some kind of logical order I somehow managed to reproduce them.

However, as soon as I tried to reach them individually, without context, it became much more difficult. Then I started using these cards, and the results were so fascinating even to me personally, that I immediately classified them as one of my basic teaching techniques.

During my classes, when I finish explaining a new grammar topic, I always give my students a task to translate a few sentences from native to foreign language. These sentences always contain a new grammar topic, some new or less familiar words we mentioned during that class and an actual event, which creates an emotional connection between students and sentences, which they recognize then as close, interesting, and relevant. For me as a teacher, it would surely be much easier to use always the same sentences, already prepared, but then, I would not be able to create that precious emotional connection.

memory card technique for learning foreign languages
Memory Cards

After we check and correct them, their next task is to copy those sentences to small papers (usually 1/32 of an A4 format, meaning an A4 format folded in half 5 times), so that each sentence is written on the separate paper. In such a way we avoid the effect of the “memorized image”, I spoke about last time. The sentence in the mother tongue is always written in blue for example, and its translation is always red, with no intention to create any psychological effects, but to make it easier to pick them up and put them together if they scatter.

I insist on using small papers because it is the only way that we can have them with us all the time, on the plane, in the wallet, or simply in an empty box of chewing gums. Thus, whenever we find ourselves stuck in a queue or in traffic jam, during the day, we can take them out and use this time wisely instead of getting annoyed.

The next phase is, naturally, crucial. We read the sentences in our language (blue side) and try to translate them to the language we want to learn to speak. It is not something that we should learn by heart, because we are already familiar with the grammar and new words in them. We should learn them as an ideal basis for making hundreds of new similar combinations.

When we give the answer, we turn the paper and check its accuracy on the red side. If we make a mistake, we should try to understand why we did it, and then we put that paper on the bottom of the pile. If we are just insecure or insufficiently fast, the paper goes to the bottom again. Only if we give the answer promptly and accurately, we can put that paper aside.

learning foreign languages.

When we encounter the same paper for the second time, we should translate it easier. If this is not the case, paper will end up again at the bottom of the pile. After the second and the third round, the pile will start getting smaller, and our attention can concentrate on the most difficult ones. It is important to keep going through them, until we learn the last paper. We should repeat the whole procedure the next day, then in 3, and in 7 days. It is always amazing to see how well some of them manage to escape from our memory.

As a result, we will always have the latest 10 or 20 papers that we know badly, the next 20 that still torture us, but the pile of those ones that we know excellently will grow day in day out, and they represent our real knowledge.

What do we get with this?

  1. We learn some new grammar rules.
  2. We learn some new words.
  3. We create a basic sentence that we can easily adjust to new situations.
  4. Most importantly, we create an automatic response in a foreign language, and therefore spontaneous speech.

I will end this by sharing a personal experience of mine. After several months of studying with these cards, I went to my exam, got my questions, and naturally remembered everything without a problem, but what amazed me and my professors most, was the ease and the speed of my language. It was completely spontaneous and smooth.

Do try this simple system and tell me about your experiences.

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Language Learning Tips – Words

Talking to my friends who would like to engage with me in some sort of online business, I often encounter their lack of knowledge or insufficient knowledge of the English language, as an obstacle. The opportunities that a global world market can offer are far greater than any local and national ones, and therefore using English for work, for me was a logical choice. Furthermore, the system I have chosen to get the necessary knowledge and experience for this job, offers training, brand-new software and support of more than 2,000 members on the same path of growth, always ready and eager to help, but in English.

Hence my need for trying to share my 25 year long experience in language teaching and all the things that could make the learning easier, or even more interesting and entertaining, in the next blogs on the site. I am a professor of Italian language and literature, my mother tongue is Serbian, I learned English and Russian at school and now I am studying Greek for fun.

My students achieve remarkable results because we use all the resources we have to make studying easier and more enjoyable and we use some tricks to fool our own brain so that it does not deceive us.

How do you study new words? The answers I get to this question are fascinating. Some students repeat them a few times, or read them once and simply try to memorize. Some of them make lists with the words and their translation and keep reading them.

Imagine that you have a list of 30 new words, you learn them for a while and then, only after a few hours, during a test or in a conversation, you cannot remember many of them.

Then maybe you start repeating learned words, and your brain already knows which word is the next one below and which is the last one. This is because the brain memorizes the picture of the list and reproduces it at that moment, but it has nothing to do with real knowledge and it is not of a permanent character.

If you try to use a word from the list the next day, there are great chances that you will be very angry at your bad memory. After all, what did you actually do?

Imagine that you are a great fan of t-shirts and you are fond of buying them. Every day you buy some and put them in your wardrobe, without order. There is now a chaotic pile there, but you love it. Then, it happens that you need a yellow t-shirt with the green strips and you know you have it, but no matter how hard you try, you cannot possibly find it. The same thing happens in your head with words. There is no hook in the sea of them, which will draw the desired word to the surface.

However, if you hang the t-shirts in the closet, the situation will be completely different. No matter how many T-shirts there are, the sleeve of the one you want will still be visible and easy to find.

Thus, the most important thing in learning foreign words and languages in general is creation of associations. My younger students, after just a few lessons, become little experts in making them, and the older ones, used to repetitive learning, find it a bit harder, but they also start liking it as soon as they experience the first benefits of lasting and reliable memory.


  1. Make a list of thirty words of a foreign language, and write their meaning on the right
  2. Read them and try to create a good association to each one of them. For example, the Serbian word for a monkey is “majmun”. Pronounced, this irresistibly reminds me of “my Moon”, so you should try to imagine the Moon in the sky that itches like a monkey. In addition, if you can “hear” the sound of it or “see” for example, the red color of its cap, the association will be better and more reliable. The more connected ideas to the desired word you make, the better the association gets. We can take for example, the Italian word for a tree “albero”. It looks like Albert, doesn’t it? Then imagine Albert Einstein sitting under a tree, rubbing his mustaches and thinking about relativity! It takes a little time and effort when you first encounter a new word but this way is far more efficient than learning it by heart, which usually, very soon ends up with forgetting.
  3. Cover the right side of the list and make sure you know the translation of each foreign word.
  4. Cover the left side now and try to translate the words in the opposite direction, from your language.
  5. Ideally, give someone to read them to you randomly to avoid the “memorized image”, i.e. what the brain has visually scanned, which, in most cases has nothing to do with knowledge.

Next time, I will introduce you to my “technique of small papers” that you will be able to use also for word learning later. From week to week, I will try to pass on to you many things that I have created for my students during all these years, that made their learning process of foreign languages much easier and much more fun. If you want to receive updates about new posts, leave me your email address in the “contact” section, and if you have any questions or suggestions, please leave a comment below.

Merano in a Few Hours

Merano in a Few Hours

Here we are again on our track of meeting new towns and places that will leave an impact on our lives and enrich our memories. We are still in Italy, but this time in its northern part, in South Tyrol.

If you need a healthy break instead of the standard Italian visiting of museums and churches, Merano can be the right choice for you. Although surrounded by snowy peaks that reach even 10,000 feet, this well-known alpine ski resort, also called “City of Flowers“, sits in the Passeier Valley completely sheltered, which makes its climate mild in winter and cool in summer.

Merano in a Few Hours

With a few hours available to visit it, you will manage to see its most important sites, but also to enjoy its clean air, friendly local people, exquisite food and wine, beautiful streets without cars, and parks full of colorful flowers and exotic trees.

  1. Winter Promenade
  2. The Kurhaus
  3. Post Bridge
  4. The Holy Spirit Church
  5. The Bozner Tor
  6. The Church of St. Nicholas
  7. Portici St.
  8. The Prince’s Castle
  9. The Theatre Puccini
  10. The Evangelistic Church


We will start our route from one of the bridges of Merano, over the Passer river, known as Theatre bridge, and go for a short walk along “Winter Promenade“, (Passeggiata Inverno) admiring its marvelous sights and sounds. Soon, on our left side we will see a beautiful building The Kurhaus constructed at a time when Merano was a popular spa resort due to the frequent visits of Empress Elisabeth of Austria and the aristocracy. It has a large portico, with columns and statues, and often hosts many interesting events.

The Kurhaus
The Kurhaus

When we get to Post Bridge we will see The Holy Spirit Church across the river, built in the German Gothic style at the end of the 13th century, an then rebuilt in the 15th century after being destroyed by a flood.

Merano’s Coat of Arms
Merano’s Coat of Arms




Walking back over the bridge we can notice the town’s coat of arms from the14th century, which depicts the red Tyrolean eagle sitting on a wall with four pieces of Ghibelline battlements and three arches that symbolize the city.


Via Roma (Rome St.) will take us straight to the historical center of the town through The Bozner Tor (Bolzano Gate). Merano has three gates. The Vinschgauer Tor (Vinschgau Gate) in the west first mentioned in 1290 and assumed to be the oldest of all gates. The Passeier Tor (Passer Gate) from the 15th century in the north, a tall, slim stone tower with a single arch and Bozener Tor (Bolzano Gate) in the south, from the 14th century, also with a single stone arch and a very steep roof, but considered the most beautiful of all town gates.

The Bozner Tor
The Bozner Tor

We will enter the old town under these remains of the original city walls. Leonardo da Vinci St. with beautiful pastel-colored buildings on both sides will take us to The Church of St. Nicholas (La Chiesa di San Nicolò), dedicated to Saint Nicholas, the patron saint of the town. Built in the 13th century and expanded over time, it got its final shape in 1465. The architectural style is mainly Gothic. It is quite large, and nicely decorated. It consists of three naves and has well-preserved stained glass windows and a tall clock tower with a sundial outside.

The Church of St. Nicholas
The Church of St. Nicholas

Via Portici, Merano’s main street, starts from here. It has no cars, many beautiful pastel-colored buildings, a few medieval drinking fountains, sidewalks sheltered from rain, snow and hot sun by old porticos, number of outdoor cafés or restaurants and shops.

Upon reaching the Merano Town Hall (Il Municipio di Merano), we will turn right to Galileo Galilei St. that will take us to The Prince’s Castle (Il Castello Principesco), a small but delightful little castle and one of the best-preserved castles in South Tyrol. Built in 1470 at the bottom of Monte Benedetto and at the heart of Merano’s city center, as a residence to Sigismund, Archduke of Austria, it was for a long time the administrative seat of the Counts of Tyrol and it welcomed a number of illustrious guests. Although refurbished, it looks very real, showing how nobility used to live in the 15 century.

The Prince’s Castle
The Prince’s Castle

Nowadays, the couples in Merano intending to get married can choose between the community hall and the romantic Prince’s Castle.

The Theatre Puccini
The Theatre Puccini

Galileo Galilei St. and further Cassa di Risparmio St. will take us to Corso Della Libertà, another important street of Merano, but less busy than the parallel Portici St.

Turning right, we will soon reach The Theatre Puccini (Il Teatro Puccini) another architectural jewel of the town, richly decorated, with a beautiful ceiling and gilded ornamentation.

Taking Carducci St, opposite the theatre, we will get to our final destination in this tour The Evangelistic Church (La Chiesa Evangelica di Cristo), overlooking the Passer river, and immersed in a beautiful English garden. Its construction began in 1883 and ended two years later. Apart from religious services, the church hosts many organ concerts, and concerts of sacred music.

The Evangelistic Church
The Evangelistic Church

Like Annecy in France or Baden-Baden in Germany, this lovely town surrounded by scenic mountains, with many nice shops and restaurants and with an amazing spa, is definitely worth visiting!






Fear of Change

Fear of Change

The more time I spend on the Internet communicating with people and talking to my closest friends, the bigger is my need to write a few lines about a terrible phenomenon that is deeply rooted in our society, called indecision, indifference and lethargy.

We all face problems and ours are always both the biggest and the most terrifying. There are people who, when they encounter a problem, do their best to solve it, and those ones who will keep complaining about it, no matter how much advice they get, without even considering the possibility to apply some.

Is it possible that our fear of change is so big that we stay immobile and prefer keeping the existing, obviously poor state, to taking a risk and getting, maybe, something worse? Life is not a gamble. In most cases, it is the product of our decisions and our choices.

Why are we so averse to accepting the responsibility for our own lives?

Fear of Change
Fear of Change

I will give you just a couple of examples.

I know many women who remain in catastrophic marriages and relationships just because of mere material security, or because of their children, thus giving them immediately the perfect model to avoid in their lives. In the worst cases, they choose to stay together to have company for parties, restaurants or holidays.

If they dare to leave their bad relationships or marriages, they usually do it only hoping to find better partners who will provide them with more satisfying lives. Do we really estimate our abilities so poorly? How about trying to build the life of our dreams on our own, that will consequently, bring the right people to us.

Let me give you an easier example. Many of my friends are struggling to lose weight. I often hear them saying that I am a lucky girl, the same for years, that I cannot gain weight. Oh yes, I certainly can.

The only difference is that I prefer being slim to a donut or to a glass of wine or beer. Such an explanation immediately brings negative comments that I am a slave to life, instead of enjoying it. On the contrary, I always take the maximum of it. I enjoy eating out. I adore chocolates and sweets, but from time to time and moderately. To be able to enjoy my favorite sweets whenever I want, I exclude buying those, always available ones, in the supermarkets. It also saves a lot of money! I will have dinner at a beautiful restaurant once or twice a week, but all the other meals during that week will be light and controlled.

Take Control

I often hear many of my young students complaining about their look. They say that they prefer sitting in front of a computer or TV in the evenings or at weekends to going out with friends and exposing themselves to possible unpleasant comments about their overweight. They feel embarrassed, but they take another bite of a pizza anyway. I try to explain, that the age they have, with all its privileges comes once in a lifetime and that they have to take full advantage of it. Sacrificing now something that will be at their disposal all their lives, will enable them to enjoy something else that belongs just to that specific period of life. It is now that they should receive so many compliments every day, they will remember for the rest of their lives, and meet more new people than ever again later.

Then I tell them to ask themselves if that tasty burger or chocolate are worth losing a compliment or a smile of a handsome young man or a beautiful girl or staying at home. If their answer is yes, it is perfectly fine, because it is then their choice. We all have our own priorities. If instead, we do something and feel the need to justify our behavior, then we talk about our weaknesses. We should enjoy our passions but should also be aware of our weaknesses and try to defeat them.

The same goes for the job. I know so many people that simply hate Mondays! They do their 9 to 5 jobs waiting for the weekend, or even worse, for their retirement. That is when they will compensate everything they missed in their youth. I seriously doubt it. Aging still carries its limitations.

I also know some unemployed people, and whenever I start talking to them about numerous possibilities of working online nowadays, they immediately find at least three times as many excuses not to do such a thing. Then I am ready to hear again – “It is easy for you. You do not have a preaching boss who gets on your nerves. You go on holiday whenever you want, you travel wherever you want.” They are actually right. Now they are. But I know very well that it took a lot of courage for me as a young girl, to take on the responsibility for my decisions and to start my own business, choosing it among  seemingly more favorable opportunities offered to me at the time, and to keep growing it later, even as a single parent.

Fear of Change

Can you then imagine the reaction to this new initiative of mine? At the moment when my work finally allows me to live not too luxurious, but rather comfortable and carefree life, I decide to embark on a completely unfamiliar field of digital marketing and online business. It takes a lot of self-control to spend evenings and weekends when everybody else relax or have fun, working on self-development and learning something completely different and new. At the same time I am fully aware that we will not be able to resist to this trend much longer and that we need to jump in as soon as possible.

That is my choice. The freedom that this knowledge gives is invaluable. Instead of living peacefully, I consciously embark on a new challenge that brings no risk, but requires devotion and consistency. The training is both interesting and useful. Every day I am a witness of my personal improvement and it gives me great satisfaction.

If I could give every one of you just a little bit of my passion and desire to move you forward to a better life and to your dreams coming true, I would do it. Still, I am afraid you will have to find it by yourselves. Always bear in mind that “fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.”